Amazing Interview!

I just finished watching an interview with Dadsdivorce.com with Molly Murphy.  This is the lady that has written a tell all book of the unfairness of the legal system for men in this country.  The book is called Winner Take All.  This is a great book, we have it and have read it, and were truly blown away with how terrible it really is.  More people in this country/world need to realize that the children need to come first and put your own petty feelings away.

Here is the interview, it's fantastic, and more people should be educated in regards to this.

I hope one day that things will change for the children of this country.  That there will be equal parenting.  It took two of you to make this child, why can't it take two of you to raise it?  You were equal parents when you were living together, why not when you are separate.

Please pass this on, share it with your friends and family...we need to start educating society and finally bringing justice to our children.

Thanks for reading!

TRAO

UPDATES!!!!

Well thank you for your patience with all of this.  It's been at a stand still for awhile here!  But I think that we might actually be moving forward now.

I did finally get a call back from the Minister of Social Services office.  He had spoken with the case worker here in Saskatoon, and she couldn't provide a lot of information, but helped direct us in a way that could possibly help us out.  We were given a phone number for a Constable here on our Police force that works with high risk offenders.  So I called and left a message due to the fact that she was gone on holidays.

After leaving this message, I figured it would be a couple of weeks before hearing back, or hearing anything at all.  The day upon her arrival back to work, I received a phone call.  She told me who this guy is, and what's going on.  Well this predator is back in jail right now for breaching the conditions of his release.  HE IS BACK IN JAIL!!!!!!  I couldn't believe it.  It gave me a sigh of relief, but he's due out in September.  So I can sleep somewhat soundly (only when the children are with us) knowing that he isn't hurting anyone's child right now.

Please go and read the article from April 2009 in regards to this guy, and tell me if EVER in a million years, knowing this about someone that you would EVER put your children in this kind of danger?

Man Jailed for Child Porn Possession

I want to thank Tracy at Andy Iwanchuk's office.  She has been such a gem in all of this.  She has supported me in my journey to get justice for my step daughter, and other children that may have been affected by this man, and other people that do this. 

I hope that someday my step daughter will know of my battle to help protect her and know that she may not have come from my womb, but in my heart she will be forever mine.

Thank you for your love and support, it means the world to us.  If it weren't for our friends and family supporting us on this journey, we don't think that we would be as far as we are.  So again, Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!

TRAO

August 9, 2010

Well still waiting to hear something back from the Minister of Social Services.  You might find this hard to believe, but they aren't getting back to me.  I heard from one guy there, Theo, and he was rather useless.  He told me that he was going to contact the office here in Saskatoon and find out what's going on.  Oh dear boy, you aren't going to get any further than I will.

I hate the system, I hate social services, and I hate dead beat MOMS!!!!  They can do whatever they want to, and nothing happens.  Having a kiddie perv in your house for 8 months is ok, but dad's holler at their kids and they will never see them again... someone tell me the logic/justice in that?

Frustrating as all hell...

July 22, 2010

Well another day, another dollar as they say....

I spoke with my personal MLA (as the last one wasn't mine, I live in a different area) today and am going to meet with them tomorrow in their office.  The gal there is very interested in our story in regards to social services, and wants to get as much information from me as possible.

Spoke with a really fantastic girl at the Ministry of Justice to try and find out more information on the "predator" and getting some head way there.  She has also passed on our information to the Ministry of Social Services.  Now this is over the guy that I had talked to before.  This is the ACTUAL Minister's office.  Waiting to hear back from her tomorrow.

It's still frustrating on so many levels, but I guess the bonus to all of this, is that I have people that are trying to help us.  I have been in contact with Maurice Vellacott's office, and below is the response from them.  For those of you that don't know who he is, he is the MP that has taken the private members Bill C-422 Equal Parenting to parliament.  Please go and sign the petition (the link is at the top right hand side of this blog, in the list of important links) and get as much Canadian support we can for this extremely important bill.

Here is the response from Mr. Vellacott's office:

‎"I apologize for the delay in responding. It will still take some time for the bill to be debated in Parliament because Mr. Vellacott’s name is near the bottom of the list of MPs randomly selected to have their bills debated. Probably at least a year unfortunately, but there’s little one can do about that with so many MPs in Parliament. In the meantime, we encourage all supporters to contact their own MP to find out if they would support the bill and if they support equal shared parenting (being in Saskatoon, I believe that the two other MPs representing that city also support it, as do probably/hopefully all Conservative MPs), and to urge them to support the bill. If they don’t support it, offer to educate them about the issue. And encourage friends and family members to do the same with their MPs. I hope this helps. Thank you very much for writing. "

MLA's

Well as some of you know, we are dealing with social services in regards to my step daughter's mother.  She had knowingly dating a man that had been convicted of view child pornography on the internet.  Under the conditions of his release, he was not to be around children unless with a court approved adult.

Well 8 months later, she gets busted with this man, after being told, and it being apparently court ordered for them NOT to have contact with each other.  My step daughter comes to us for a week and a half.  Social services is involved, but the children are never "removed" from her care.  She now has the children back in her care, and social services did NOTHING.

Rob has been in contact with the mother's worker and that she can't tell him anything due to the privacy act.  So his hands are tied in that aspect.  So I have taken it upon myself to be in correspondence with our local MLA's and MP's as well.  I have received a few responses back from 2 of our NDP MLA's.  I spoke with one of them yesterday and they are trying some different avenues to get us some answers.

I received another email this morning inviting me to come down to their office and speak with them.  Waiting on final details on the time, but I'm looking forward to meeting with them and hopefully getting more answers.

I have been in contact with the Ministry of Social Services, the people above our local office, and got "we can't help you, talk to the Saskatoon office".  Nice,eh?  The people that over look the province are telling me there is nothing that they can do... pretty sad when the "system" protects dead beat moms instead of the children that they are SUPPOSED to protect.

That's all for now, will post again when I get an appointment set.

Cheers,
TROA

From the beginning....

Well if you have stumbled upon my little corner of the world, I'm guessing that you might have something in common with me.  I have an amazing fiance that has 2 beautiful children.  They are both from different mothers, and to put it nicely, life can be very difficult dealing with these women.

We have been together for almost 3 years now, and pretty much from the start of our relationship, we have dealt with PAS, denial of access, greed, and most of all lack of concern for the well being of the children that are involved.

I should have started this blog a long time ago, as a record of our trials and tribulations, but I think that I was somewhat ashamed of what was going on, and the fact that I felt so helpless to do anything about it.  Well enough is enough.  I'm tired of keeping quiet, it's time to bring more attention to this, because if we don't, then who will?  We can sit around and wait for people to make things better, or we can take the bull by the horns and say let's fix this.

My eyes have truly been opened as of late, due to a man by the name of Dave Nash that is doing a Cross Canada Run to bring awareness to Equal Parenting.  Please check out his website and support this very important cause!  Cross Canada Run for the Children

I will put along the side links to important websites and updates for the causes that are going on around us.  Please stay tuned for more updates and journal entries as we go through this battle together.  Please pass this onto friends and family, and let's do this for the children of this country, that deserve both parents.

Much love!

TRAO